Love and Marriage – True Love
“I told you that I’m 36 years old. I’ve been maried since I was 20. So that means 16 years of marriage. That means all of my adult life. I don’t even know how it feels like to be a single adult. I don’t! When I try to think about that I cry, you know?”
Ephesians 5: 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
What does it mean? This means that the man needs to be the first lover in the house!
“We have been lied to, and this is a problem. We have bought the greco-roman myth about love. Those who believe the Greco Roman myth, think that love is nothing more than a random, overwhelming, uncontrollable sensual force. The image of love is cupid. Those who believe the myth make some of the following statements: “We don’t choose who we fall in love with”; “This thing is bigger than both of us”; and “The heart wants what it wants.”
- “Biblical Love is an act of the will accompanied by emotion that leads to action on behalf of its object. This love it is the one that lasts, it is stable, it is something that stays, it is something that will serve as a foundation on which a marriage can be built.”
- “The greco-roman myth is not so. You cannot build a solid marriage on the greco-roman myth. It doesn’t work. That is why you get people walking away from each other that say: “We just felt out of love.The Greco-Roman model is too fickle for marriage.”
“You’re not always going to feel like loving someone. Learning to love is a work of sanctification – it is not learned intuitively.”
“The heart is just a muscle that pumps blood; that’s all it is. When we see that word in the Bible, it is only used in figurative means. In hebrew language it reffers to your volition, to your will. So we love as an act of our will. It is a choice! Love is accompanied by emotion. That means it is not lead by emotion. If it is lead by emotion, it is a Rollercoaster, and you’re in trouble!
If you have bought the lie of this greco-roman myth, my prayer for you is that you wake up, and open your eyes. That you will shake yourself loose from that lie.”
Voddie Baucham – sermon excerpts